Staying together for the kids isn’t always the best choice

On behalf of Furr & Cohen, P.A. posted in Divorce on Wednesday, April 1, 2015.

How many times have you heard people say they are sticking out their marriage because of their kids? Many people have heard that at least once. In some cases, the parents who say that honestly believe that they are doing what is best for their children. That, however, isn’t always the case. In some cases, a divorce that creates two happy homes is better than a marriage that is in one unhappy home.

Children who have divorced parents can learn a lot of valuable life skills. Learning that compromise is important is one of these. If their parents are getting along and working together, the children pick up on that and can learn how to do the same with others.

Children can learn how to remain calm. When their parents aren’t always fighting, children can begin to pick up on the calmer atmosphere, even if it is occurring at two houses. They feed off of their parents’ happiness.

In many cases, parents who are divorced can make decisions that work for them and their children. That isn’t always possible during a tension-filled marriage. The parents can each find a parenting style that works for them and their children.

When parents divorce, the children do have a period of adjustment. That adjustment after the marriage ends can often be difficult, but when things settle down, the children are usually able to recover and adjust well to the new way of life. As parents, it is important to truly think about which situation is better for the children. With that in mind, parents who are considering divorce should work to understand the ins and outs of getting a divorce.

Source: Huffington Post, “Why a Good Divorce Is Better Than a Bad Marriage for Kids,” Brette Sember, March. 24, 2015