Understanding how to successfully co-parent

On behalf of Furr & Cohen, P.A. posted in Divorce on Thursday, May 14, 2015.

Learning to work together with your ex-spouse is a necessary but often unexpected by-product of divorce. Even though you are no longer married, you still have to maintain a positive relationship with your ex to the best of your ability. Doing so is in the best interests of your children because it helps them transition to their new normal more quickly and without as much stress.

One of the most important things you can do to keep the relationship with your ex positive is to be flexible. After a divorce, each parent usually ends up setting up his or her own house and lifestyle. This can mean that differences in parenting styles, discipline methods or house rules that were present before are even more apparent. Keep in mind that, as long as there is no danger to the children’s health or emotional well-being, your ex has the right to parent as he or she sees fit.

When you do have a disagreement related to the children, communication and respect are key. Unfortunately, these things are often lacking in relationships that go south. Being civil and treating your ex as you would anyone you were doing business with can take some of the emotion out of play and help you remember to approach the situation more neutrally.

While the family courts can be invaluable for dangerous or difficult situations, the reality is that many petty cases end up before the courts that could have been solved if the parents would have acted more civilly. If you have questions about whether or not an issue you are facing needs to be taken to court, consulting a family law attorney can help.

Source: HelpGuide.org, “Co-Parenting Tips for Divorced Parents,” accessed May. 14, 2015